How To Write A Disgustingly Easy Thank You Note

So easy... really, what's your excuse?

So easy… really, what’s your excuse?

When I was a kid I hated writing thank you notes. I was sure that none of my friends had to write them and so I was pretty sure that no one that I sent them to was expecting any such thing. I was also certain that just as soon as I was a grown-up I would never write one again, thankyouverymuch.

Time, it seems, has a sense of humor.

The truth is that I now write thank you notes like it is going out of style. I write thank you notes to everyone. For pretty much anything: I even send thank you notes when I receive thank you notes from someone else. My university once sent thank you notes to donors that were hand written composed by current students. I was so impressed that I donated twice.

It turns out that now that I am a grown up I like seeing my thank-yous in writing. I will (grudgingly) accept a spoken thanks or a thank you email, but it really isn’t the same. I hold on to those thank you notes. I remember them. And I’m not ashamed to admit that I’m willing to give more to people and charities that  make the effort to send them.

There is really no down side to a thank you note. They are cheap. They make people think well of you. The are disgustingly easy to do. That’s all there is to it.

“But I don’t know what to write!” You say (That was always my problem as a kid).

So here is a recipe for the perfect Thank You note:

Dear [Generous benefactor and giver of time, money, or gifts],

Thank you so much for your [complimentary adjective] [time, money, or gift].

One sentence about what you plan to do with the money or gift, or if you are thanking them for their time then one sentence about what they did for you.

One question about something that you know about them.

One line of news about yourself, preferably as it relates to something that you know about them.

Closing line: Thank you again for your wonderful gift. I hope all is well with you and I will hope to hear from you again soon.



This should fit a standard thank you notecard. Buy some and keep them on hand- there is no excuse not to. Seriously, you can get a package of thank you notes for a dollar at a discount store. They practically give them away at yard sales. It is tidy, personal, costs about 75 cents (including the stamp) and takes about 15 minutes if you are a slow writer.

~ by Gwydhar Gebien on January 22, 2013.

4 Responses to “How To Write A Disgustingly Easy Thank You Note”

  1. Do I then send a Thank you note for the Thank you note someone wrote for the Thank you note that I wrote for the gift?? Where does it end?!?!?!

    And, I usually love the Thank You card thing, but Wedding ones are so, well, not fun. Friends and close family are great and easy, like writing a postcard. But, what about all the other people (friends of parents and cousins you have never met)? I just feel so awkward writing the same thing worried that one cousin will know another cousin and compare their thank you notes and see I wrote the same thing!

    • The problem with wedding thank-yous is that there are just so many of them, and sometimes you have to send two because there was a shower gift AND a wedding gift. But on the plus side it is easy to have something personal to talk about- The Wedding!

      And as long as your message is heartfelt and handwritten I don’t see anything wrong with saying the same thing more than once.

      • Dear Gwydhar,

        Thank you so much for your wonderful response.

        I plan on totally using your template and advice on not being too worried about the Thank You notes.

        I love the daily blog reads. I have so many blogs that I have to wait around for weeks or months to read something new. Is it difficult to keep up?

        Though this reply may sound sarcastic, I do mean it in a funny way and hope you take it that way. It has been said my sense of humor is not well timed and is not really funny.

        Thank you again for your wonderful advice. I hope all is well with you and I will hope to hear from you again soon.



      • Heya
        No worries- I think I knew what you meant about the thank you for the thank you for the thank you note 🙂
        So far the daily blog update thing seems to be working out pretty well, but I’ve only been doing it for 24 days now… we’ll see if I can keep it up once I get really busy- or start traveling!
        Thanks so much for the responses! It’s good to know people are reading 🙂

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