Same Love

What, you mean we all weren't born white, heterosexual, American, middle class, males?

What, you mean we all weren’t born white, heterosexual, American, middle class, males?

There has, of course, been much talk about same-sex marriage of late now that it is in front of the Supreme Court for their decision.

I can’t tell who any of my Facebook friends are anymore because all their pictures have been replaced by the ubiquitous red equals sign, but I didn’t change my own picture. It is kind of a personal preference: I don’t wear yellow ribbons to support the troops, I don’t buy pink shit to support breast cancer research, and I don’t change my Facebook avatar for marriage equality. It’s not that I am against any of these things- in fact I feel strongly that troops deserve my support, that breast cancer should be cured, and that anyone who wants to make a lifelong commitment to their partner ought to be able to do so. But I do feel that I am responsible for supporting these causes, and others that I believe in, in a significant and deliberate way and I just don’t feel that making a token gesture is sufficient.

Why is marriage equality even an issue?

This is something that bothers me because the answer isn’t the right shape for my brain. The answer is: “because the Bible says so”, and that isn’t good enough for me for a couple of reasons.

The first reason is that the Bible is a work of text. Whether it transcribes the literal word of God or not is beside the point: it is not the word of God coming directly into our brains uninterrupted- it is something that we have to interpret off the page. We don’t even have a satisfactory word differentiating the “love” of Coca Cola from the “love” of your soulmate so to talk about God’s “love” or the “love” between two married people is pretty damn wide open.

The second reason is that the whole point of the Bible is to guide believers to live conscientious, ethical, and community building lives. It doesn’t matter what the words say if you aren’t conscientious, ethical, or community building with them.

Before it sounds like I am just stomping on the Bible and on people of faith I should also point out that it is the business of everybody to live conscientious, ethical, and community building lives. I don’t care if you’re gay, straight, lesbian, transgender, bisexual, polyamorous, polygamist, asexual, pansexual, or celibate: there is no “us” versus “them”- there is only “we”.

We are all grown ups.

We all should know how to share our things and play nicely with others by now.

~ by Gwydhar Gebien on March 27, 2013.

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